It may not always seem that easy, but in fact all struggles of modern life can be resolved starting with yourself (and ending with the other person). This article offers you the tools to do so.
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About Louise Dancet
It`s been almost four years since Louise Dancet has picked up all her stuff and moved from her neighbourhood in Brussels to the Jordaan in Amsterdam. She has given up her well paid job as a lawyer to start all over with a new career and a new lifestyle. Including a new gp (doctor), a new hairdresser and a new way of transportation: an elegant white female bike.
If you are interested in the internal conflicts she has encountered since immigrating, or in cultural aspects she detects in conflicts she is otherwise involved in either personally or professionaly as a mediator then you have come to the right place.
Entries by Louise Dancet
Have you got a clear mental picture of your circle of influence? Or do you just as often address issues that are out of your control? By learning to distinguish between your circle of influence and circle of concern you will prevent entering into conflicts that don’t serve your interests.
Short days with scarce daylight followed by a short night after christmas functions, mails that need answering before the festive break and targets I still want to meet. It is a dangerous mix that adds up to a short temper and a mean tongue. Although I know: When in a hurry, there is all the more reason to take a break and reflect.
Do you know how you deal with conflicts or even with a tricky personal or professional situation? This article will help conflict avoiding readers to be perfectly honest with themselves ànd as a result become more effective.
Many aspects of life are a negotiation in some form. To deal with these successfully it is crucial to consider your walk away alternative. Exploring your alternative allows you to consider how necessary it is for you to reach agreement. You might be positively surprised.
Insults are not always clear cut. In a boardroom or staff meeting insults may sound different because people claim to be respectful. There is a way to tackle hidden powerstruggles though. One strategy is to be more aware of relational messages.
A lot of conflicts arise, and are fueled, by the process of blame. None of it is effective. Non-violent communication is. Here you’ll read how to apply non-violent communication towards your business partners, colleagues or suppliers to obtain what you need and to reduce your frustrations aswell as theirs.
Subtext are cryptic comments. People in long-term relationships, such as long-term business partners, use it a lot. This is partially functional. Over the years they have learned about each others’ allergies and sensitivities and they know that certain matters should not be dealt with directly. Subtext is a way of saying something without really saying it, but it’s not harmless.
Are you caught up in a troubling situation or a tiresome collaboration? Not to worry, from where you are, you can turn the tide. At least if you use the right de-escalation techniques. They needn’t be complicated. These 10 best practices will do the trick.
An effective way to avoid the escalation of conflict is to detect any problem in an early stage. It sounds fairly easy and yet many companies and organisations fail to do so. Does that sound familiar? The next examples might encourage you to immediately call on a problem next time one arises before your eyes.
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- About Unfold Conflicts
- Conflict indicators
- Constructive communications
- Goals in counselling
- How to crack a tough nut
- Intercultural transformation processes
- Introductory meeting
- Louise’s background and expertise
- More about mediation
- Phone call
- Rules on giving and receiving feedback
- The Lewis model: a Model of Cultural Types
- What expertise does a legal mediator bring to the table?
- Why mediation?